Thursday, December 29, 2011

Parker Fox Robinson


Spencer and I are so thrilled to announce the arrival of our sweet baby boy!

Parker Fox Robinson

was born on Thursday, December 29th at 0653, weighing in at 7lbs, 15.8 oz, with a length of 19.5 inches.

My sweet boy!
I have never felt so full of heart and love as I do right now!  I've had so many people tell me "you just will never know how much you can love someone as when you bring a child into the world....." At the risk of seeming cheesy, I couldn't agree more.  I just find myself staring at this sweet, tiny bundle and not wanting to do anything else but be with him!


Anyhow- a little recap.  We were so excited that my dad and both of Spencer's parents were able to be here for Parker's birth.  I went in Wednesday morning at 530am to be induced.  After, 2 rounds of Cytotec, Dr. Risinger broke my water at 630pm, and we started Pitocin at 800pm.  Long day, needless to say.  Fortunately, we had several visitors that helped us pass the time.  I did end up getting an epidural at about 1100- which made things a lot more comfortable.

My MICU friends came to visit- Kala, Jessica, & Jess
consistent late decels all night- only I would take a pic of it!
The late hours of the night were very stressful for Spencer and me, because we knew by watching my strip that Parker was having frequent and consistent late decelerations (heart rate) with most contractions.  My nurse was frequently making changes on the Pitocin, having me change positions, putting on oxygen, and trying to compensate for it.  Every time the door opened, we were anticipating that I was going to the O.R. for a C-section.  However, at 500am (the next morning), Dr. Risinger came back in, was not concerned, and gave me another hour to be ready to push.  This made all of us feel tremendously better, and for an hour and a half- all 5 of us slept (see pics!).
Spence & Debbie sharing a surface to sleep on
My Dad finally able to rest
Praise God- I only had to push a little over 10 minutes, and Parker came into the world with a vigorous cry, and very active!
Finally, he's here!  They laid him right on my chest as soon as he came out- I loved every second of it.
My Dad, Spence with Parker, and Spencer's Dad
Parker with "Sport"
Parker with "Big Daddy"
Some of our best friends, Wes & Erica, came to visit and brought Chick-fil-a
Some of our favorite people all showed up at once for a sweet visit!  Philip & Kelsea Walkley holding Parker (Memphis), Brett & Katie Sterba with J.P. (Charleston), & Collin & Meredith with Madeline (Columbia) 
Meredith with her daughter Maddie, and Parker and me.
Kelsea is one of my closest friends from college.  We were both in each other's weddings- she happened to be in town visiting family!  What perfect timing!  While I was laboring the day before- she took about 20 laps with me of walking around the unit!
Look at that head of hair!
the cleft is on his left- this profile
shot shows the less affected side
 So, as I've mentioned in previous postings, we knew after 20 weeks that he would be born with a cleft lip and palate.  The lip was exactly as we were anticipating.  It is on the left side extending up just below his left nare.  However, the palate is a lot more involved than we were expecting.  It is actually bilateral (both sides of palate) and not just a small amount on the left side.  If you take a pen light into his mouth, you can see openings on each side that go directly into the nasal passages.  Of course, this makes feeding a bit more difficult, and will require more repair than we thought.  Dr. Chen (Plastic Surgeone) came to examine him right after he was born, and said he would need at least 3 surgeries now.  Praise God, it could still be so much worse!

A good shot of the cleft lip
still an absolute doll!
However, I have to give major praise to our hospital, Palmetto Health Richland, for all of the incredible resources and consultants we met with daily during our stay.  We had awesome lactation consultants, breastfeeding consultants, and a speech therapist who gave us great information and help with feeding issues.  We felt we received excellent support!

The Haberman Feeder



The Speech Therapist showed us several different methods, and we finally decided on using a specialty bottle/nipple called the Haberman specialty nipple.  It takes a bit of practice, but Parker does GREAT with it.  Occasionally with feedings, milk does leak out of his nose and mouth, but we've figured out our own tricks and goals on what works best.  Please contact me if you have any specific questions- I'd love to give you my thoughts!

Here I am using the specialty bottle/nipple

Wednesday, December 7, 2011

36 Week Update

At my 36 week appointment yesterday, learned that Parker's head is engaged in the pelvis, and that the cervix is 50% effaced with no dilation....yet.  Very exciting- it's all starting to become very real that he will be here very soon!

Last night, we went to a Breastfeeding Class.  Spencer was not excited to go, but to my relief (and his)- there were about 9 couples there- all with the man in tow.  It was really helpful, and I think we both learned a lot about feeding a baby in general.  The lactation consultant who ran the class, Denise Altman, has her own private business here in Columbia and came highly recommended by a close friend, as well as my OB office.  She offers several great classes, in-home consultation, and is a wonderful resource!  If you are interested in what her company offers- check out their website:

http://www.feedyourbaby.com

Much of the information from resources and from some physicians has led me to believe that breastfeeding will not be an option, but I was very encouraged to hear from Denise that it is very much an option, and as Parker's cleft only extends ~2.5mm into the palate, he may be able to do well with it.  We also discussed specialty bottles/nipples in case he cannot.  We will just see when he gets here!  Fortunately, our hospital has great resources to help us after he is delivered.

This morning Spencer and I met with Dr. Chen, the plastic surgeon that we have chosen to do Parker's cleft repair.  We have heard glowing reviews about him from my OB office, the MFM specialist, speech and occupational therapist friends, surgery residents that Spence knows well, as well as multiple other healthcare professionals in the area.  He actually is the team leader of the Columbia Cleft Team, and did a fellowship in craniofacial abnormalities.  

Our appointment was great!  He will come see Parker right after he is born for his first exam.  Then, around 3-4 months, he will plan to repair his lip with his first surgery.  Between 6-8 months of age, he will then plan to repair Parker's palate.  We will know more specifically what his plans are when he first examines Parker.  Overall, he was very informative, and made us feel very comfortable with having him as our surgeon!


Tuesday, December 6, 2011

Cleft Lip & Palate Posting

Tomorrow I will be at the 36 week mark!  The time is flying by like crazy, and I am just in shock that he will be here so soon.  Expecting a baby soon around the holidays makes for a crazier than normal Christmas season, but at the same time- very exciting!

So, one thing that I haven't written about on here is the fact that Parker is going to be born with a cleft lip and cleft palate.  At my 20 week anatomy ultrasound scan, we found out about this.  I am minimizing a great deal on here what an emotional roller coaster that was and still at times continues to be, only because we have had our time of "grieving" an abnormality with our child, but also because over the last 4 months, God has really helped us to have a better perspective on the situation and move forward in how we will handle it.
At P's 29 week scan- you can see the cleft on his left lip.
It's the darker line from his lip border reaching
 up towards his nose.

One of the things that was helpful for me was to read information not only from clinical standpoints, but also a few blogs that people in our situation used to document and educate others on the challenges and surgical repair processes of their own children who had clefts.  I hope that maybe someone can be encouraged as we do the same with Parker over at least the next year!


What is cleft lip/cleft palate? 














A cleft is a separation in the lip or roof of the mouth (palate).  They can occur in anyone, but are twice as common in boys.  Approximately 1 in 600 babies born in the U.S. has a type of cleft.  Clefts are the fourth most common birth defect in the U.S.

Incomplete Cleft Palate

Unilateral Complete Cleft Lip & Palate
(What Parker has)

Bilateral Complete Cleft Lip & Palate

What causes it?
Exact cause is unknown.  For most cases, no single factor can be identified.  Some can be associated with syndromes or birth disorders.  Between 85-90% of individuals with a cleft have no other physical problems, and when it is "isolated" like this, the cleft is believed to result from an interaction between genes and the environment.  From all of our tests and extra ultrasounds, it appears that Parker's cleft is an isolated problem, meaning that there is no suspicion of a syndrome, and all of his other anatomical markers are within the norm.

Again, the cause isn't fully known, but the most important thing to remember is that it is NOT that you, the parent, did something wrong- it is not your fault.  In the first 10 weeks of life, the left and right sides of the face and roof of the mouth join together.  if they don't join correctly, an opening in either the lip or the roof of the mouth can result (cleft).

What are some issues to expect?
One of the biggest issues is with feeding.  Depending on the severity of the palate involvement, babies may or may not be able to breastfeed.  Regular bottles/nipples can also be challenging due to the baby's inability to form a good seal/suction.  There are many options for specialty nipples for bottles, and a lactation specialist can help in offering suggestions for feeding difficulties.

Hearing can be an issue, as cleft babies have higher risk of ear infections.  Most require tubes to be inserted by an ENT to drain fluid and prevent hearing loss.  Teeth can be affected with palate involvement, and orthodontics is usually a need.  Speech problems can also be common, and often it is necessary to work with a speech therapist starting as early as about 6 months of age.

How is it repaired?
Surgical repair is almost always needed to correct the cleft.  Virtually all children born with cleft lips or palate who receive appropriate care go on to lead normal, happy, healthy, and productive lives!  Each individual is unique, and their situations and surgical plans will all differ to some degree.

Repair to the lip is typically done first per standards of care and is done at about 10 weeks of life or later.The lip can be repaired in a single step or in multiple procedures.

Repair of the palate begins after about 6 months of age.  Depending on the severity and complexity of the palate, it can be done in one surgery, or can be done over a period of years in developmental stages.  The primary goal of repairing the palate is to achieve acceptable speech.

It is also helpful to be seen by a Cleft Lip and Palate Team of specialists available in many larger areas. Besides surgical closing of the clefts, these individuals may need additional help with feeding, teeth, speech, hearing, and social/psychological development over time.


What type of specialists participate on the treatment team?
-Audologist (assesses hearing, which can be affected with clefts)
-Surgeon (often a plastic surgeon, an oral/maxillofacial surgeon, craniofacial surgeon, etc)
-Pediatric dentist (if prosthetic pieces are needed for the mouth)
-Orthodontist (straightens teeth and aligns the jaws)
-Geneticist (screening for syndromes, counseling parents for genetic implications)
-Lactation specialists (help with feeding problems and alternative feeding options)
-ENT (Ear, Nose, Throat physician for issues affected in these areas)
-Pediatrician (monitors overall health and development)
-Psychologist (support family and assess any adjustment problems)

-Speech-Language Pathologist (assesses speech and feeding problems)
-Other specialists (treat specific aspects of complex craniofacial anomalies)

A dear friend of mine ordered me some fantastic educational references from the Cleft Palate Foundation. If you or someone you know is expecting a child with this condition, the contact information is:

Cleft Palate Foundation
1504 East Franklin Street, Suite 102
Chapel Hill, NC 27514
800.24.CLEFT (242.5338)
www.cleftline.org, info@cleftline.org



The facts I've shared on this posting were found in their resources.

Just for fun- a few well-known people born with cleft lips and/or palates:
Tom Brokaw- News Anchor
Cheech Marin- Actor
Peyton Manning- NFL Quarterback

Wednesday, November 16, 2011

33 weeks

Had a great appointment today.  I had an ultrasound done of Parker, and everything looked really good.  First off, with the polyhydramnios, I've had to monitor my weight closely to make sure I don't gain too much too quickly.  Today, I actually was 2 lbs less than a week ago- a great sign.  Then, my amniotic fluid index, which was 33 at 29 weeks, dropped to 26- much closer to normal (<20).  A total relief!  All I can say is that God is so good!  I could not make it through all of this without having faith that God is sovereign and in control.

He is measuring about 5lbs 1oz- a big boy in the 70th percentile.  Some cute pics of the boy:
Sweet face 
He had his feet by his face, curled up in a ball

I love his little feet and toes
So my friend Christina is incredibly talented, and knitted him a little fox stuffed animal.  It is so adorable- I had to show it off!  She also sent me a print that she created that I'll post soon.  It's so much fun to receive all of these sweet gifts and know that he will be around soon to see them himself!

Sunday, November 13, 2011

32 weeks


So we've made it 32 weeks- every week, I thank God for extra time for Parker to develop, grow, and mature.  My doctor's appointment went well last week- still measuring high, but nothing to worry about.  Just to keep a close eye on everything, I'm going back this coming Wednesday for another Ultrasound.  He is still kicking nonstop, reminding me frequently that he is in there.  Week 32, most babies are about 4 lbs, 17 inches long, and are about the size of a squash.  I'm also experiencing a lot of Braxton Hicks contractions these days.
This is a good bump shot with Suzy from last weekend- he's getting so big!

I had my first experience of a stranger crossing the personal space boundary.  A visitor in the ICU has now 3 times put both hands on my stomach and given it a good rub- each time giving me a shock.  I'm surprised that A) this is the first time it has happened, considering I hear stories frequently of this.  And B) I just can't believe people find it acceptable to go and lay hands on a very personal area of a complete stranger.  I'm a touchy feely person, but oh my- that's a bit much!

precious diaper cake
Today, I was so blessed to have another baby shower, this time with my sweet coworkers from the MICU.  My friend Kala (who came to Hawaii) hosted at her house with help from some others, and we had such a nice turnout!  I was overwhelmed with more sweet gifts- lots of books (my favorite), outfits, accessories, diapers, and a pack n' play.  I have wonderful friends, and we had such a nice time!

Crazily- I think we have pretty much everything we need for when Parker makes his appearance.  I love just sitting in his room and going through his clothes and looking around wondering what it will be like when we have this child in our home- very exciting!
diaper wreath- so creative!
Kala's house looked so cute all decked out for Baby Parker!
Amber, Amy & Jess

Jess, Jean, myself and Jessica- love my friends from work!
My sweet friend Amy- she is 38 weeks pregnant now and will be having her baby boy, Jack, any day now!

Monday, November 7, 2011

Go Hogs! One last visit home....

Spence and I had a great weekend in Northwest Arkansas.  As we flew back on Friday- Spencer kept reminding me that this is our last trip home with just the 2 of us.  It's so crazy to think that we are going to become a family of 3 (+ Jack).  As my bump grows ever larger, we are realizing how close we are to becoming parents.  I'll be 32 weeks on Thursday!

Here we are with Michelle Duggar- NWA celeb!
One of the highlights when we got to town- we went to lunch with my family and ran into the Duggars!  Spence and I have to admit that their show is a guilty pleasure of ours!!!  Jim Bob and Michelle were taking their daughter Jessa out to lunch for her birthday, and they were so excited to see my grandmother, Libby, who they knew from the post office for years.  They were even nicer in person than they seem in the show.

Rachel and me- one of my oldest and closest friends!
My stepmom (Kim), Mama, Vicki (Kim's mom) and my friend Rachel threw a very sweet shower for Parker on Saturday morning.  It was so fun to see SO many people that I never get to see on our quick trips through town.  We were so blessed to receive so many nice gifts that we desperately need as we anticipate P's arrival.
Rick's Bakery Petit Fours- amazing!  The Hogs were so cute.
Pi Phi friends Mindy and Sarah- so fun to see them!
My sister-in-law, Suzy, mother-in-law, Debbie, Suzy's mom, Suzy, and cutest nephew ever- Jim!
Erin, Lori, Miriam, Kim & Susan- loved seeing everyone!!!
LOVE it!- Spencer trying on our new Baby Bjorn, carrying around Mickey Mouse for practice.  Looking good Spence!
I do have to boast- the Razorbacks were once again victorious on Saturday night against the Gamecocks.  We've received many congratulations from our Clemson and UGA friends.  The game was fun, as was tailgating.  It's always so nostalgic to go to campus and the games.


2 years in a row of Arkansas vs. Carolina with Brian & Jenny

On Sunday, Spence's Aunt Margaret hosted a wonderful brunch for family and friends before we headed home.  It was a perfect weekend full of activities, friends, football, and fun.

Hanging out with the Eldridges and Coverts
Dutton family pic- my brother James surprised everyone and flew in from NYC to be a part of the weekend!  It's so rare for all of us to be together- such a treat!

Thursday, November 3, 2011

Wooooo Pig Sooie!

Last year when friends came into town
2010 Game Score from USC- Go HOGS!!
Spencer and I are leaving for Fayetteville, Arkansas tomorrow morning.  I am so excited for a couple of days at home.  It will be a jam-packed weekend of activities, baby showers/brunches, and of course the Razorback and Gamecock game.  Very excited to see lots of family and friends!  Although we love living here in Columbia, SC, there is not even a question of where our loyalty lies.  The razorback red is packed for Saturday night, and we are bringing heavy coats for the cool NWA weather that night.  



A little over a week ago some of our closest friends here threw us a wonderful shower to help celebrate little Parker's upcoming arrival.  We had a really nice time, and received some great gifts!  We are very blessed to have such wonderful friends & family!  It's so exciting to receive all of these things, knowing that our little boy will one day wear the outfits, play with the toys, and be wrapped up in the blankets and such that we've received.

Wendy, Ellen, Lauren, Colleen & Debbie after the shower
Spencer and Ben- Ben had a very impressive board for bets placed on day and time frame for Parker's arrival
And of course- this week was Halloween- Spence dressed Jack up in last year's costume since I was at work.  Isn't he the cutest??